Let’s face it, some stereotypes exist for a reason and white women are no exception. Since this is my general demographic, it would be idle to deny it as a factor in how I approach, talk, and date them.
For example, it’s in my best interest to assess how close they may be to the suburban/privileged white girl stereotype. Red flags may include, but not limited to, the following:
- Hiring someone to walk their dogs – in a kid’s stroller
- Dealing with the same adversities you dealt with when you were 15
- #Blessed or “everything happens for a reason“
- Making a duck face while posing for a photo
- Talking in acronyms – “O.M.G. this is, like, my jam!“
- Claiming to be a nerd b/c they once read a graphic novel
- Saying “if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best”
- Or “I love nutella, uggs, leggings, Victoria’s Secret bags and Katy Perry“
- Complicating Starbucks orders
- Facebook check-ins
- Googling themselves
I hate to sound fatalistic but I’m quite confident that if I bring one of these gals back to my neighborhood, they would think differently about the relationship. Now, I’m not exactly saying I live in the ghetto but my area has a few salient traits that rub some folks the wrong way. Last week at midday, I went to get my mail and there was a man in the dirt speaking absolute drivel to himself and smoking a glass pipe, possibly crack but I’m not sure. Remember,this was in broad daylight, he doesn’t live in my building and is a complete stranger. My neighborhood isn’t dangerous but if you’re not accustomed to these types of areas, it’s easy to become disillusioned.
Recently, I invited a woman over for dinner. Like me, she’s a NYC transplant. Dinner was great but it was obvious from the few palatable comments she made about my street that I was going to have to walk her back to the train at the end of the night. And, I did. It’s never elucidated but, instead, tacitly agreed upon that she won’t be coming back here again. So much for my bachelor pad.
Full disclosure, I’m not saying that I don’t embody a few lame stereotypes myself (after all, I do author a blog) or that any of these traits are intrinsically abhorrent. Only some of them are.
-Single Guy in NYC