I waltzed around you seven times, only to become
A melody you never sang, who shall be your one?
In your opinion, how difficult is it being single? How many dates do you go on, or how many proposals do you receive, every year? I’m going on 3 years without a date, despite trying again and again.
You can fit quite a bit of rejection into three years, which is why I started this blog. If you follow me, I’ll give you a cookie. Or maybe not. I’m not much of a baker anyhow.
Reading innumerable single blogs (mostly authored by women) has taught me one salient and indistinguishable point: both men and women have trouble with dating but the issues are fundamentally different. In brief, women spend more time sifting through the garbage of prospects and going on unsatisfying dates, while men spend more time just getting a date and courting the lady (well, making an impression at the least).
There seems to be a misconception about how hard it actually is to get a date if you are a male. One of my friends chortled because a man she knew was still single after 2 months.
“Why would he choose to be single for that long?” she jeered.
Choose? Was she serious? Judging by her choice of words, it seemed as though she thought being single could be grouped into other daily decisions such as showering or taking your coffee with milk and sugar – or if you live in a metropolis; bathing in Dr. Bronner’s Magic Soap before applying your sulfur cooling masque, or taking Australian goat’s milk with your half caf-half decaf extra hot cappuccino with a smidgen of organic cinnamon. (We all know those people.)
“All of life is a wager” – Christopher Hitchens
I submit to you, dear reader, that my friend is undoubtedly wrong. Every woman a man approaches is a wager with that man’s dignity centered on the table. Rejection adds up and can be devastating to your self-confidence, which is ironically the most fundamental turn on for most women.
If I keep writing, that means I have lost another bet. These are my stories…