Re-Objectifying The Concept of Objectification (Including the Sexual Kind)

An interesting write-up on a contentious topic; objectification.

It seems to me that given the long history of abuse and sexual discrimination, some modern feminists get caught up in the historical abasement in an effort to keep the momentum going for the future. True, their work isn’t done but feminism need not be a dirty word. It’s positive and represents equality. It’s just as important to recognize where the sexes differ and how paths intersect from separate beginnings; objectification can be a two-way street. Hell, any Tinder user objectifies on a daily basis. Despite this, however, it sucks that some men are just idiotic pigs willing to say anything to get a rise out of the opposite sex. Catcalling is horrific in NYC and most men have to hear about it secondhand, so it can also be difficult to fully appreciate the scope of what’s common nowadays.

Here’s a take on this open-ended topic:

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Picture, for a moment, the following scenario. A man and a woman are sitting on a couch watching a movie. Since every movie outside of gay porn is supposed to include an attractive woman, a scene comes along where the cameras emphasize just how attractive she is. Sometimes it’s a body double. Sometimes it’s Photoshopped. The brains and genitalia of men don’t care. It often leads to a conversation like this.

Man: Wow. That woman is pretty damn hot!

Woman: Yeah, I can see why you’d think that.

Pretty mundane, right? How many people have had that exact conversation with only a slight variation in the verbiage? Hell, I’ve heard my own parents have this conversation. It’s not awkward, nor should it be. When something or someone shows up on a screen and we find it attractive, it tends to start a conversation.

That scenario is not an issue. It…

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Should I Follow Your Blog?

It’s been a while since I’ve done the whole blog thing and I’d love to connect with other bloggers whom write about dating/sex/relationships. I’m open to any and all suggestions, especially if they mull over their relationship failures,which – if you don’t know – is my specialty.

Give your e-peers a shout out!

-Single Guy in NYC

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Although this was something I posted months ago, I found it suitable for today. Ignore the last sentence but enjoy the rest. 🙂

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Ah yes, Valentine’s Day – the benignly positive acronym for VD. The day where lovers rejoice, haters be hatin’, ignorant cynics proclaim Singles Awareness Day, and the realists carry on as usual. When you’re single, relationships appear ubiquitous; which makes me feel like a combination of all four types of people I just mentioned. Granted, I do take solace in not having to spend much money for this day and not having to worry whether or not I’ve pleased my girlfriend when I’m single. I know some guys that, at times, can relate to this card:


Though, I do not know how safe sex would be if this were ever true. Just another reason to wear a condom.

Next up, I’ll share a story about this past Valentine’s Day.

– Single Guy in NYC

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This Just In!

Next time this happens to me, I’m definitely going to copy this guy. This amazing post was written by Roxy, so make sure to check out her urbanely insightful blog ( and show her some love! -Single Guy in NYC

What the hell is a Liebster Award?

Liebster Award -Single Guy in NYC

Liebster Award -Single Guy in NYC

This month I received a Liebster Award from Hugs x heart. Thanks for considering me for this, and for those of you reading this, check out her page. She’s got a witty, gracious charm that will make you smile and read on.

When you receive an award, you’re beseeched to follow these steps:

1. Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link to their page(s).
2. Proudly display the award banner on your page.
3. List eleven facts about yourself.
4. Answer the questions the award-giver asked you and make 11 more for your nominees.
5. List your nominees.

Well, steps 1 and 2 are done, so I’ll move on to 11 random, but hopefully stimulating, facts about myself:

  1. I’m related to William the Conqueror but not bragging about it
  2. My love for European culture grows exponentially every year but I’ve never been
  3. I’m the only guy I know to ever fake an orgasm
  4. I sometimes laugh compulsively, never knowing whether or not my peers will join in
  5. Not to sound creepy but people watching is one of my favorite hobbies. Everyone in NYC is weird!
  6. I dropped out of the Boy Scouts after 1 day because I couldn’t tie a knot
  7. Now I know how to tie 10 different knots
  8. I wish my life had it’s own soundtrack
  9. Most of my friends don’t know one another and if they did, they would despise one another
  10. Oscar Wilde is my favorite person in history to quote
  11. My best friend mooned me at my 14th birthday party (we’re still friends)

Hope this helps to paint a better picture of me for anyone reading my blog.

Now to answer Hugs x heart‘s questions:

1. If you could take 3 people with you to a deserted island, who would you pick?   
Tom Hanks, a boat maker, and Popeye the Sailor Man
2. What is the most random thing you have done?
Fall in love when I wasn’t looking
3. What inspires you to write your blog?
Women I meet and all the lovely bloggers out there on the Interwebs
4. If you could date a famous person, who would it be?
Emily Watson
5. What is the cheesiest pickup line you heard?






6. If you could go back in time and change one thing, what would it be?
To kiss her on that rooftop
7. What fear do you have?
I suppose death is a biggie
8. What astrological sign are you?
Couldn’t tell you; don’t follow astrology
9. What are your hobbies?
Singing, reading, cooking, and socializing
10. Tell 3 things you like about yourself?
My patience, sense of creativity and humor
11. What is you favorite ice cream flavor?
Rocky Road


Here are my questions to my nominees:

  1. If you were a lofty emperor/empress of a foreign land, what wacky and frivolous law would you enact to keep yourself entertained?
  2. Boxers or briefs?
  3. What did your last received text message say?
  4. Top or bottom?
  5. What’s the one song that describes you best?
  6. Name a political figure you hate
  7. Do you speak more than one language?
  8. What’s your top 5 movies (in no particular order)?
  9. What’s your favorite physical quality in the opposite sex (or same sex)?
  10. What’s your favorite personal characteristic in the opposite sex (or same sex)?
  11. What’s the cutest thing anyone has ever done or said to you?

And the nominees for this year’s Liebster Award are…..

  1. Bridgetmoans Diary
  2. Kiss A Lot Of Frogs
  3. Not So Sex in the City!
  4. Skinny and Single
  5. Lifeofalovergirl
  6. Big Battles, Small Victories
  7. The wandering mind
  8. Beautiful Simplicity
  9. Adventures in Online Dating
  10. The Single Girl Secrets
  11. Words of an Angry White Girl

Take care and happy blogging!

-Single Guy in NYC